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5 Ways to Play Beyond Gender Stereotypes

March 13, 2015 By Ann Maes 16 Comments

This is a little story about how we found ourselves sliding down the path of gender stereotypes in our play at home, and how we implemented these 5 ways to play beyond gender stereotypes. They sure did work for us and I have a feeling they’ll work for you too!

5 Ways to Play Beyond Gender Stereotypes

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How Gender Stereotypes creep into our everyday Play

Some time ago I walked into our living room where my two children were playing. Miss Glitter (4) was organising her ‘babies’, working in her play kitchen while twirling around in her Frozen dress. Mister T (1) was sitting on the ground, playing with his cars in his fairy dress. Miss G was trying to take his cars because her dolly wanted to play with them, but Mister T held on for dear life.

I started looking around to see if there was something else I could suggest her dolly can play with. And as I scanned our living room, almost item per item, I noticed how bright the pink tea set was, how many ‘babies’ Miss G had collected over time and how absurd Mister T looked in his fairy dress and matching hair clips, desperately grasping for his cars.

I just had to laugh. But all of a sudden I realised how very feminine our play environment really was. It wasn’t funny at all. For some reason we managed to evolve from a gender neutral environment to a mini Martha Stewart’s home making paradise in just 4 years time!

How on earth did that happen? I’ll tell you. It crept up on us.

I remember how things started turning around when Miss Glitter was about 2 years old. We entered a new realm of pink, purple, glitter, dolls and more dolls. I encouraged it. I thought it was cute. And it is cute. But maybe it’s also a bit unfair.

Here’s why:

From a very young age, children’s development is shaped by stereotypes. By the time they’re 3 or 4 years old they start figuring out for themselves what it means to be a boy or a girl. This process is subtly influenced by what role models say and do and by the environment they live, play and learn in. On top of that preschoolers have this tendency to think in extremes and are drawn to the way toys and clothes for example are marketed in the media all around us.

I became painfully aware that by only encouraging Miss Glitter’s excellent home making skills I was really limiting her perception of what girls can do, what girls can be.

There’s nothing wrong with preschool girls going through a pink and frilly phase. Neither is there anything wrong with my toddler boy loving his fairy dress.

What I believed was wrong was that I didn’t give my children any other options. I was slowly and subtly setting a certain tone for my little girl and baby boy. A very soft pink tone.

I realised I urgently needed to bring some gender balance into our play area. And so we did.

5 Ways to Play Beyond Gender Stereotypes at Home

We played around with a few ideas and noticed how certain things we did had a huge effect:

1. Offering a Variety of Play Materials

We made sure that aside from our collection of toys that nurture the values of family life and encourage connection and empathy, we also offered materials that invited our children to build, tinker and explore basic principles of physics and mathematics.

Miss G completely surprised me by really enjoying playing with cars and being very intrigued by our new building set.

If you aren’t familiar with the Theory of Loose Parts, go on and read this article first. It will completely transform the way you look at play and play materials!

2. Setting up Invitations to Play

I’ve always been a big believer of child led play. I think that setting up an invitation to play is a very gentle way of introducing children to materials that they might not naturally gravitate towards.

A well set up invitation to play will pique a child’s curiosity. And I’ve found it’s also a great way to discover your child’s interests. I always thought I knew what my children liked and didn’t like, but I discovered I don’t: there’s so much more and it changes all the time!

Have a look at the AMAZING collection of simple invitations to play.

3. Mixing up Boy and Girl Play

By mixing up boy and girl play I’m suggesting to make typical girls’ play more attractive to boys and vice versa.

Examples:

– adding water and soap or leaves and branches to the play kitchen

– extending block play with gems, beads or pieces of fabric

– displaying both boy and girl dress ups (or as we did: add sparkles to your cape!)

– have neutral dolls and doll clothes (and maybe something to ‘drive’ the dolls around in)

And there’s many more, but you get the idea. Next time you’re hosting a play date for boys and girls, I’m sure you’ll notice a difference in play dynamics with this subtle tweaking of the environment!

4. Encouraging mixed-gender Play Time

When boys and girls play together they engage in a wider variety of activities than when they stick with peers from the same gender.

Girls will be challenged to play in a more vigorous physical way and boys might engage in dramatic play or even practice their fine motor skills with art projects.

These play times provide such huge learning opportunities!

5. Balancing the Books!

Once you start looking, you’ll find a lot of gender stereotypes in a lot of books! I’m not promoting you burn them all, but instead grabbing the opportunity to talk to your children and perhaps explain a couple of things.

Maybe you could add some books to your home library that break some of the gender stereotypes like The Paper Bag Princess (Classic Munsch), Little Red: A Fizzingly Good Yarn and Rosie Revere, Engineer.

5 Ways to Play Beyond Gender Stereotypes

How about You?

Whatever your family looks like, I’m sure you’ve bumped into gender stereotypes in your home in one way or another …

I hope that this blog post will challenge you a little bit to take moment to reflect on the play culture in your own family and provide you with some tools to maybe somewhat stretch those sneaky gender stereotypes.

I do realise that every family is different in their family composition, culture and many other ways. So I am sure there are a whole bunch of things that can be added to this post! Feel free to share your thoughts with me, I’d love to here.

Ann*

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Comments

  1. Danya Banya says

    March 13, 2015 at 11:42 am

    We have two girls, and I’ve really tried hard to intentionally provide a balanced environment so they can grow up to be as gender neutral as possible. I purposely avoid buying anything pink – not because I have an issue with the colour per say, but because I know they will be given pink, Pink, PINK by friends and extended family, so if I can provide the red, blue, green, yellow, silver, gold and purple, then we might start to balance out slightly…..

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 15, 2015 at 12:46 am

      That is so funny. No matter how hard you try pink WILL sneak in, just like cars do! We can only try and do our best to provide some balance and if you have girl accept that there might glitter whatever they’re playing with!

      Reply
  2. Megan says

    March 13, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    Great post! We try to encourage non-gender-oriented play and I really don’t like those big chain toy stores that are organized according to “gender.” I do however think for some reason, boys are just drawn to all things that move – my son has loved cars, trains, etc. from as early as I can recall without any prodding to do so. He also loves to play in his little kitchen, bake with me, and craft though:)

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 15, 2015 at 12:34 am

      That is so true. I know a lot of boys who are totally into their cars! Since I have boy and a girl, it’s a lot easier to set up a fairly gender neutral play space. I can only imagine what our house would look like with a bunch of boys or girls only, lol. All children are wired differently so for myself I just try to keep it in the back of my mind to try and provide gender stretching toys/experiences and be mindful of my own words and actions towards my children. So nice that your little boy likes to do those things with you, long may it last!

      Reply
  3. Meghan says

    March 14, 2015 at 2:02 pm

    These are such great tips – with two girls in our house, I try to encourage play beyond traditional stereotypes, but that hasn’t stopped Big M (3) from wearing a tutu or princess dress every waking hour of the day. Lil’ M is much more of a tom boy, but we try to push the boundaries of traditional gender-role play as often as possible – blocks, splashing in puddles, getting dirty, along with cooking, helping me clean-up, crafting and playing dress up.

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 15, 2015 at 12:37 am

      Goes to show all children are different and how we love these little people’s big characters! I’m guessing your two girls will challenge each other in their play throughout the years!

      Reply
  4. Nicole Schwarz says

    March 15, 2015 at 1:49 am

    I have 3 girls…and we have plenty of girl stuff, princesses and pink at our house. But, we also have trains, trucks and other non-pink things! In fact, right now, my baby loves playing with matchbox cars!

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 15, 2015 at 8:23 am

      3 girls! Matchbox cars are a huge hit in our house too at the moment!

      Reply
  5. susen @Dabbling Momma says

    March 15, 2015 at 2:19 am

    I enjoy watching while my daughter wears her brothers pirate hat and how she has asked her Daddy to bring home a hard hat because she’ s going to be a construction worker when she grows up! As for my son he may be persuaded by his little sister when he plays dress up but he’s a real trooper and wears a princess crown and jewelry!

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 15, 2015 at 8:21 am

      Love it!

      Reply
  6. Nell says

    March 16, 2015 at 4:43 pm

    I love this post! I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter that loves cars, blocks, her train set, toy animals, and a few dolls 🙂

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 16, 2015 at 10:09 pm

      Thanks Nell. Sounds like your girl has got it all sorted!

      Reply
  7. Kalista says

    March 19, 2015 at 4:58 am

    I’ve got three girls. And one lonely boy (and my husband is in the military so he’s gone a lot lately). We are usually very good about keeping things neutral but somehow the princess stuff has really made its way in lately. I do find it limits their play quite a bit (especially so when they’re playing with licenced character type stuff) so we try to steer clear. We’re big fans of wooden animals and play silks, bits of nature, blocks…that sort of thing! We are moving in a few weeks and this post has reminded me to go through the toys and leave behind some of the pink!

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    • Ann Maes says

      March 19, 2015 at 10:08 am

      Nothing like a move to review all of the toys that made their way into your home!

      Reply
  8. Carolyn Lucento says

    June 2, 2015 at 6:04 pm

    This is an excellent post! You have some simple and easy to implement suggestions on a VERY IMPORTANT topic! One of my favorite memories: when I was the director of a small parent co-op in 1998, we set up a construction zone in our playhouse/ loft area. Every morning there was a 5 yr old girl who would come in to school, go straight to the dress up box and put on high heels and a yellow hard hat…then she would play all morning in the construction zone! Got to love it.

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    • Ann Maes says

      June 2, 2015 at 6:49 pm

      What a great story!

      Reply

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